Whether you’re new to non-monogamous relating or old hands, seeing a sex worker as a couple can be an incredibly useful experience.
My partner and I have been together for 6 years, and to some extent non-monogamous throughout that time. We discussed it on our first date.
Despite our commitment to non-monogamy, it was daunting to explore – when it’s new the what ifs can be overwhelming. Our opening up journey certainly had its tumultuous moments. While it certainly forged a more communicative and compassionate bond between us, I can’t help but wonder what might have been if we had an experienced other to help us practice negotiating the container – to feel out what we wanted in terms of activities and aftercare, emotional and time commitments, to test the tires for rupture, to give space for any required repairs without other relational obligations.
In the last 5 years, I have made it my business to nerd out on attachment, self-regulation, conscious connection and building relational safety. Making my experience and knowledge available to those in relationship is something I am passionate about.
On the other side of the induction to open relating, my experience is that being invited as a guest into an existing relationship is a privilege. Witnessing the way a couple feels for each other intuitively, the tension between familiarity and novelty that bubbles up when they encounter the unknown together.
Whether the intention is to learn and grow or simply to enjoy each other and another, the options grow with more people in the mix. If you have specific tastes or requirements, you have more leeway to ask a provider the questions that will ensure they are the right fit for you.
I offer a range of experiences I love to share with couples. In erotic enrichment sessions, I can act as guide and witness, offering observations, practices, pauses for reflection and connection. If we are playing together we have the opportunity to explore new roles – voyeur, exhibitionist, pleasure glutton, helping hand, director… You might discover something new about your partner, or see a trait emerge that has laid dormant in the context of your relationship.
Interested to learn more?